Archive for May, 2010

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

6 Most Important Things To Help You Heal

We did some research. We wanted to know: What gives the body the best shot at healing and staying well? There seem to be six main tips the experts keep giving over and over for help in keeping our immune systems at their best. These tips may come as no surprise and hopefully reading them here all together will remind us to make them a priority:

1.    Drink lots of water. Sodas, coffee and wine don’t count. Pure water helps remove toxins and wastes from our system, and helps transport oxygen and nutrients throughout our body.

2.    Get plenty of rest. This means sleeping a solid 6-8 hours a night, taking naps when we’re tired, and taking off our superhero cape from time to time.Healing

3.    Move your body. Circulation in our blood and lymph system are vital to good oxygenation and fighting disease. Working some exercise and movement into our weekly schedules is a must.

4.    Stay connected. Feeling the support and connection with others holds tremendous value in our outlook and ability to face the challenges that come our way. Love for and from others can help us feel our best.

5.    Cultivate inner peace. An angry or resentful heart or a fearful, troubled mind causes stress and can be harmful to our health. Do what you can to make peace with your life so that your body can begin reflecting your inner state of balance and calm.

Healing Apple6.    Nourish yourself well. Every body is different, but the general rule is to eat a balanced diet with lots of whole foods like whole grains and vegetables. A diet rich in varied vitamins and minerals gives our body a better array of supportive nutrients with which to draw from.

Try an honest evaluation to see if you are weaker in certain areas over others. Today could be a great day to start giving your body the most basic things it needs in order to heal.

Here’s to your health!

Note: This is not an attempt to give medical advice. Make sure to speak with your physician about any specific medical protocols you might need.

Monday, May 17, 2010

What Helped Me Move Forward


A girl I know was just diagnosed with breast cancer. I say girl because she is young – like under-35 young – and, well, she’s really not supposed to get the disease. It’s apparently not all that common for young women. In fact, just under 7 percent of all breast cancer cases occur in women under 40 years old. Still, it seems like so many are hearing that dreaded string of words: you-have-cancer.

Fortunately, many are surviving, too. And that’s why I’m pretty darn sure my friend will one day look back and marvel at her survival. Just like I do.

My diagnosis came at me like a ton of bricks the day before Thanksgiving in 2004. I was 34 years old, living a happy little life asJacki Donaldson beat cancer a wife and mom of two boys. Joey was almost 4, and Danny was 18 months, and more than anything when I first learned of the invader in my left breast, I feared I would die before my babies grew into men. Now that I’ve graduated from surgery, chemo, radiation, more drug therapy, counseling and a year-and-a-half dance with an anti-depressant, I have almost no worries at all. I guess it’s sort of an evolution – from sheer panic to peaceful calm – that has allowed me to be OK with the fact that I’ve had cancer, and to truly (truly!) believe it’s not coming back. Here’s some of what might have helped me move forward:

Therapy. The counseling and anti-depressant helped me stop weeping every time someone asked, “How are you?” They squashed the anxiety that kept balling up in my stomach, and they braced me until treatment was over and I could wean myself back into real life.

Blogging. It was my husband’s idea, to write down every step of the journey, so others could get updates without my retelling the story over and over and over again. my Breast Cancer blog started as a way to communicate, and it’s morphed into a living document, now five years long. It helps me to write, it brings in others who open up and share their stories, it’s even scored me writing gigs.

Support. I’m lucky, because of my rockin’ husband, my loving kids, my mom who lives in my neighborhood, and my sister who lives around the corner. Plus, I had a whole team of friends who came to my rescue with meals, gifts, letters, emails, a hand-made quilt — you name it, they delivered it. They kept me cushioned for a long time. I also had Chemo Angels – people I didn’t even know who wrote me letters of encouragement through chemotherapy.

Eating. I learned to eat right post-treatment. I’m not saying I’m a perfect eater or anything, but I know what my body needs and what it doesn’t need, and I Jacki Donaldson marathon after cancertry to make it all balance out so I can be as healthy as possible.

Exercising. Research shows that something like five strenuous hours of exercise per week can cut my chances of recurrence significantly, so I’m committed. I run (finished my first half-marathon this year), I walk, I swim, I do whatever I can to ensure my docs keep praising me for my low heart rate (last check = 50).

There’s more. I aim to keep stress low (I recently quit a job that was taking over my life and got a lovely new one), I go to all sorts of doc visits to keep on top of things (just went to my first “survival” appointment), I keep my eye on the prize (my family), and, mostly, I try like mad to cherish every. single. moment. of. every. single. day.

Jacki Donaldson is a wife, mom, freelance writer and editor. When she’s not blogging breast cancer at, she’s usually spilling secrets about her kids at

Saturday, May 15, 2010

Jessica’s Daily Affirmations

We’ve all heard the theories on how daily affirmations can help improve our lives and even our health. If ever anyone made this positive thinking thing look fun and easy to do, here is one little girl that’ll knock your socks off. She certainly brightened our day!

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Fear . . . How Do You Deal?


I have been a worrier most of my life. When my first husband was killed in a car accident in 1994 my worrying became worse. It Cathy Bueti for Jeans Radiation Creamwas the most alone I had ever felt. I wasn’t sure how I would ever survive without him. Fast-forward to 2001 when I was diagnosed with Stage 2 breast cancer at 31 years old and lets just say I was “high anxiety” at that point. I became fearful of my own death. As I now enter into my 9th year of survival I still deal with fear but what has changed is I am more aware and motivated to get it under control.

I began to really think about how to handle my fear when I finished up treatment and was told I could just get back to my life. At the time I wasn’t even sure what that life was anymore. What I began to find though was the more time I spent doing the things I loved I would lose all track of time. All of the clutter in my mind would shut off and I was only focused on enjoying what was right in front of me. Creativity was helping me control the fear.

Think about what makes you feel creative and what you are passionate about. For me it is writing, rx photography, painting, or just taking a long walk listening to some tunes. It is a way for me to empower myself. Fear can steal away your power. Don’t let it!

Do you live with fear? How do you deal with it? What are you passionate about? What makes you feel creative?

Cathy Bueti is a 9 year breast cancer survivor, blogger and the author of Breastless in the City, a memoir in which she shares her experience as a young widow dating through cancer treatment. She is active in the young adult cancer community and has been a panel participant at various cancer conferences as well as a keynote speaker for such events as Sloan-Kettering’s Survivorship Day. She has been featured on CNN,, USA Today, and Women’s World. Cathy lives in Brewster, NY with her husband and their pug. She continues to inspire people on her website and blog at

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Sky Lanterns

The people of Northern Thailand are famous for their sky lantern festival. Participants believe that it is good luck to release a lantern and that the lights rising into the dark night are symbolic of their problems and worries floating away. sky lantern festival thailand

The festival is glorious. What a sight to behold! And it makes us wonder: if we really could let our problems and worries fly off into the night that easily, would we? There are some things we lose sleep over that we just can’t do anything about. So maybe, even just for a moment, we can try letting our worries disappear into the sky of an unknowable future and stay present in the peace of today.

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Helping Single Mothers This Mother’s Day

Imagine being a single mom in the midst of cancer treatment. Imagine going through surgery, chemo and radiation therapy, juggling the demands of work and family, trying to make ends meet financially, and coping with the emotional challenges of a family affected by cancer. Unfortunately, this is the reality for many women who are battling this disease. single mothers with cancer

To commemorate Mother’s Day, Jeans Cream is giving 10% of all on-line sales this month to help Singleton Moms, a remarkable organization providing financial assistance and volunteer-based resources to single mothers with cancer.

Singleton Moms serves mothers in the Phoenix, AZ area. In all of our online searching, Singleton Moms was the one and only source of practical support we found dedicated to single moms with cancer! Although we’re in Massachusetts, and our community members live all over the world, the resources Singleton Moms offers are vital and we want to support their movement. We hope that by giving this issue more exposure, that others will begin reaching out to help women in their own communities.

So, if you’re interested in helping single mothers with cancer in your area, there is a lot you can do. Singleton Moms co-founder, Andy Royal says, “People generally don’t ever ask for help and will often reply that they are fine. Instead of asking, ‘What can I do for you?’, Just do it!”

She recommends we “Think of all that they are going through.  They need help with cleaning… You can wash their dishes, bring them meals on sick chemo days, get friends and family together to help with bills. You can pay bills (phone, water, electric) online with just an account # and address usually.”

If you have more questions or would like to contact Singleton Moms directly, Andy can be reached at

We’re wishing moms everywhere a love-filled, graceful, peaceful Mother’s Day.