When we’re faced with a cancer diagnosis, challenging treatments, or eczema that isn’t healing as quickly as we would like, we may find ourselves asking some variation of the questions, “Why me?” or “Why is this happening?” And really, we may never know the answers. We have to assume we’re good people, living in the best way we know how or are able to. By asking, “Why me?” we’re never going to get an answer that lifts us up, helps us to heal, connects us more deeply with loved ones, or helps us make the most of the lives we have.
So, what other kinds of questions can we ask that will direct our minds in a more helpful and healing way? Here are some good places to start:
What can I do to positively influence this situation?
What are my next steps?
What do I need?
How do I want to feel?
What resources do I have at my disposal?
What do I need to do differently?
Who has gone through a similar situation? What worked for them?
By asking ourselves some different questions, we can gain a greater sense of power over what we are experiencing. We can begin to see solutions and find support. This isn’t about ignoring our distress. It’s about approaching our challenges in a way that will help us instead of keeping us upset and stuck.
