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Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Using Tattoos To Write a New Story

After the surgery, drug chemo, cialis radiation side effects, buy and other treatments, there are often pieces to pick up. There is healing to do and a re-orienting of oneself to a new body and a new way of viewing themselves in the world. Some women opt for having tattoos created over the areas affected by surgery so that they can put their own beautiful stamp over a difficult experience in their lives. Check out the way this one woman chose to do that: 47-year-old breast cancer survivor Molly Ortwein gets a seven hour chest tattoo from artist Colby Butler of Unfamous Miami. Visit for more of the story.

Friday, December 28, 2012

Feelings Always Win ~ Let Them Heal You

Cathy ThorneHow many times have you tried to will away a feeling to no avail? Some of us try to stuff our feelings, ignore them, or positive-think them away, but no matter how we try, our feelings always win. They come out in distorted ways (this is especially true with anger and resentment) or they take us over at the most inopportune times.

While allowing our honest feelings may be uncomfortable at first, by surrendering to the inner experience of a feeling – the pure energy of it – you can begin to feel in a way that allows an emotion to complete its process and heal you. Our feelings are always giving us important information about what’s important to us, what we truly need, and whether our thinking is healthy or not.

The next time an uncomfortable feeling emerges, close your eyes and let yourself feel the truth of it for a moment before trying to do anything about it. The more you do this, the less you will be swung around by your emotions, and the more you’ll be living from a centered place of power and authenticity.

Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Healing Touch

“Touch is one of the most essential elements of human development, a profound method of communication, a critical healing hands touchingcomponent of health and growth… and a powerful healing force” (Zur, 2004).

Safe, positive human touch can relieve tension and help you feel connected, safe and utterly loveable. It can ease anxiety, generate hope and help you heal.

Ask a loved one to scratch your head, play with your hair, rub your feet or just hold your hand. Get a massage—do a massage “trade” with a friend if you can’t afford to pay someone. At the very least, start by caressing your own arms or massaging your own neck and shoulders.

Your body craves touch. So, especially if you’re in a healing process, try making it more of a priority in your life.

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Good Things Can Happen from Bad Things


I had a very interesting interview on a Detroit radio station for a program called God 321. I met the host Danny Hutchins at The Pink Fund Crazy Sexy Luncheon of all places! I am grateful to my friend Molly MacDonald, see who leads this wonderful organization, link for introducing us. I was apprehensive about being on a Christian program. As some of you know, order I was raised a non-practicing Jew. As an adult, our little nuclear family attends Unity, which embraces all religions and has taught me about a loving and kind God.

When I was writing From Incurable to Incredible, I was overwhelmed from hearing stories of the people gracing the pages and how faith helped them through life’s most serious challenges. These stories and getting to know these amazing people I interviewed help me through. It gave me faith that I can do it, too.  My faith certainly helped me. I connected with God on a much deeper level. My faith was and is my lifeboat, which is always there to rescue me in my time of need.

Not everyone in my book were people of faith, but a comment from God 321?s host made me rethink that. Dan said that everyone has faith. After all, humanists have faith in themselves. That is certainly true of all the people I’ve interviewed. Some were very Christian, some were Jewish, and some just believed in the power of themselves and the people around them. Yet they all had faith.

I’m not a Bible reader but there are many truths in it, which have been a source of comfort to me since I was diagnosed with cancer. One is the meaning of faith: “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen (Hebrews 11:1, KJV).” According to statistics, my chances for a long life are not great. But faith tells me that all things are possible, even if there is no (medical) evidence to back it up. I have faith that a power greater than myself will allow me to see my daughter grow up and dance at her wedding (if she chooses that path). I believe God has a purpose for me: sharing hope and encouragement with others.

But sometimes my faith is challenged. Recently, I attended my friend Cyndi’s visitation and saw her husband and two children standing there looking lost. Like us, they are an extremely close family and Cyndi held things together. Her beautiful young adult daughter Lauryn is a spitting image of her. Her husband Gary says that is a gift Cyndi gave to him. I’m angry that so many people are taken away in their prime by cancer. I don’t understand it, but it just is. I want to blame someone, something for it, but in the end, I have to just have faith that some good will evolve from tragedy.

As my mentor Bernie Siegel, MD, conveys in his children’s book, Smudge Bunny, sometimes good things happen from bad things. For me, cancer has been a transformative experience. As one of my friends said recently, “Would you have ever thought you’d write a book and be speaking to groups of people?” My world has opened up since my diagnosis. I take better care of myself and have more confidence and passion for what I believe is a God-given mission. There have been more gifts than I can count.

I just finished watching Monster’s Ball on TV (yes, I know it’s been out for 10 years). I could barely view the beginning; it was so full of painful images. Billy Bob Thornton’s character was a violent racist who transformed into a loving and generous man who falls in love with an African American woman (Halle Berry). This transformation happens after the suicide of his son and the death of her son. In the end, they are looking up at the stars, and Billy Bob’s character says to her, “I think everything’s going to be alright.”

That’s faith. That’s the demonstration of God’s love despite terrible circumstances. Bernie was right. Good things can come from bad things.

To listen to my God 321 interview, go to

Tami BoehmerAfter more than 20 years working in health care public relations, Tami Boehmer was thrust into the world as a patient. In February 2008, she was diagnosed with a stage IV breast cancer recurrence–months after celebrating her five-year, cancer-free anniversary. Unwilling to accept a grim prognosis, she decided to interview survivors nationwide who have lived far beyond what the medical establishment predicted. Tami compiled these amazing stories into her book, and shares them along with valuable information on healing the body, mind and spirit on her Web site and blog, Miracle Survivors. Tami lives with her husband Mike, daughter Chrissy and furry feline AJ in Cincinnati, Ohio. She divides her time between caring for her family, blogging, fulfilling speaking engagements, and serving as a board member for Pink Ribbon Girls, a support group for young breast cancer survivors.

Monday, March 7, 2011

Affirmations for Peace

We’ve all heard about the power of positive thinking. Whether we believe it or not is another thing entirely. Some people find the idea of repeating affirmations to be too contrived and disingenuous, while others experience great comfort when repeating soothing, empowering statements. How do you feel about affirmations? Could they be a useful tool in helping you manage your experience while experiencing radiation side effects, diabetes, eczema, psoriasis or more?

Sit back in your chair, take a deep breath and press play on the video below. At the very least, it will be a nice calm time out to your day.

Affirmations from Janet Doucette on Vimeo.

Thursday, December 9, 2010

Let Yourself Grieve

Grieving is a natural process and many of us don’t allow ourselves to do it enough. Because life is constantly changing, we are sunsetoften leaving behind people or circumstances that were once very important to us. If we have been diagnosed with an illness, we may need to grieve the life that came before. We may feel sad about losing a sense of invulnerability or easy peace of mind. We may have to change the way we relate with others. Our bodies might never be the same, or perhaps recovery will help us feel better than ever, but we may have to say goodbye to our old lifestyle and way of relating with our physical form.

The trouble with denying our grief or stuffing it down, is that it never has a chance to wash through us and leave us clear and open to new, positive experiences. You may need to cry, sleep more, mope around for a day or two, or just talk to friends about your loss. But consider your grief real and legitimate – no matter what the perceived loss is. Allowing yourself to be real about how it feels to let go will bring you greater support and an internal sense of comfort about whatever changes you have been going through.

Monday, October 25, 2010

Creativity Can Be a Healing Force

Creativity can have a healing power for us as individuals, capsule but also for communities. In Oakland, tadalafil California, young people are beginning to use their creativity to keep them aligned with their goals and to express their desire for a better world.

Scrapertown from California is a place. on Vimeo.

Saturday, October 9, 2010

How to Inspire Hope When Life Seems Hopeless


I recently had lunch with someone I often think of as my “miracle pal,” my dear friend Roxanne. Her advanced cervical cancer returned more than Lori Hopea year ago, after an almost two year remission, but she has remained remarkably healthy.

Rox chose not to pursue any more conventional treatment. Her doctor told her that undergoing chemo again would only extend her life for a very short time, and since she was symptom-free, she chose to live her days fully, pursuing alternative treatment modalities, including and perhaps most important, what brings her joy.

But joy wasn’t what I saw as we waited for the black-haired waitress to bring our spicy tuna sandwiches. I sensed a sadness in Rox; It looked like hope had drained from her face like blood from a tournequeted finger. Knowing how private she is, I let her take the communicative lead; in other words, I simply asked in a nonchalant way how she was doing, and allowed her to choose the topic of conversation. She kept things light, but I could feel a heaviness sinking her soul.

I kept wondering how I could impart hope to her. Was that in fact even possible? It’s easy to dash hope; people inadvertently do it all the time by telling cancer “horror stories.” But how do you give someone hope, besides telling a success story of someone else who fared well or survived?

I know that telling people with cancer to think positively can actually make them feel worse. Yet everyone knows that thinking positively makes one feel more hopeful. So it would follow that people with cancer would want to be reminded, “You have to be positive.” Right?

Wrong. Hope is a feeling, while positive thinking is a mental construct. It can be nigh impossible to “change your mind” and think about the bright side when you’re traumatized. And it’s normal to feel sad, angry, and even hopeless when faced with a diagnosis of cancer.

But there is still great hope for inspiring hope. Here’s what I’ve found. When someone shows me they love me, when they demonstrate that they accept me for who I am, right now, even when I’m being cranky or negative, it makes me feel better, and therefore more hopeful. Studies show that social support increases feelings of hope.

When I’m criticized or told what to do, the implication is that I’m not doing it — whatever “it” is — well enough. That can undermine my confidence and make me feel worse.

Over lunch, I told my friend that I love being with her. That I love her calm energy, but that I love her whether her energy’s calm or not or whether she’s feeling up or down. I told her how much I love our friendship.

By providing comfort, love, and confidence, and by silently supporting her treatment or lack of treatment decision, even if it’s not the decision I would make, I think I inspired hope. At least I hope I did.

It’s always a struggle to say and do the “right thing,” and, sometimes nothing you say or do will be “right,” because your friend or loved one is so stressed and therefore mercurial. Hence, the statement that people with cancer want you to know, “My moods change day to day; please forgive me if I snap at you,” rings all too true all too often.

But by just being there, and by listening, you can make a world of difference. By telling someone you are thinking about them, that you love them, that you believe in them, you can help them live a richer, more meaningful, and more miraculous life.

Always hope,
Lori Hope

Cancer survivor, Lori Hope is the author of Help Me Live: 20 Things People with Cancer Want You to Know,’s second bestselling “cancer support” book. A newly expanded second edition of the book will be out next year. You can find more of Lori’s work on her blog. And if you’d like to participate in an anonymous survey about what was most helpful — and not so helpful — to you after receiving a cancer diagnosis, please click here. Participants will be eligible to receive a package of outstanding health and healing books.

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Navigating Depression

If we’re facing a life-changing illness, recipe or our physical challenges have lasted a long time, treatment we might find ourselves in a depressed womandepressed state where just getting out of bed in the morning takes heroic effort. Battling depression like this can make it extra difficult to do for ourselves what is necessary to keep us healing and moving forward. So, rx while we may want to consider getting professional support, we are going to have to dig deep and find some inner resources as well. Here are a few quick tips that can help:

1. Start small. You already know what’s good for you: exercise, reducing stress, eating well, drinking lots of water, etc. But right now, just the mere idea of tackling all of these might be overwhelming. So just start with something you can manage. Begin with a walk around the block. Or skip soda for today. Add more as you are able. If you feel that healthy living is all or nothing, then chances are you’ll never get around to any of it; and in order to feel better, you do have to take good care of your self.

2. Stay social. It’s easy to want to isolate ourselves when we feel miserable, but doing so only makes us more vulnerable to getting pulled down deeper. Ask a friend or family member to keep you company one night a week for a few weeks, or at least make a standing phone date with them. Invite your sister over to help you cook dinner. Ask the neighbor to join you for a movie. It may be the last thing you feel like doing, but maintaining these social connections is vital to recovery.

3. Don’t take it personally. You already have enough on your plate without adding self-recrimination to the mix. Remember that this is an experience in your life, it is not the sum total of who you are. At some point, believe it or not, you will feel better, and this can happen more quickly if you’re able to be patient and kind with yourself.

4. Look into your heart. When you can see clearly the people and things that matter most to you, they will become a source of energy to help you get through this.

5. Share your feelings. Even if it means talking about the fact that right now you are not feeling anything and that’s the whole problem. Make sure to share your feelings with someone you trust, either a professional or someone who you know can hold space for your emotions without running scared. This will help energy to move out of your system, while building your feeling of connection with others.

6. Ask for help. If you suspect your experience may be more than you can handle, reach out for assistance from professionals and support groups in your area. Although it might feel like you’re the only one in the world going through this, you aren’t. There are so many people who have been exactly where you are, and there is a world of resources available if you reach out your hand.

Monday, August 16, 2010

You Are Powerful

Life challenges can sometimes put us in a place of feeling weak and afraid. And while it’s perfectly human to feel this way, try Powerful Healing Sunsometimes we completely forget how much power we actually do have. We may forget that at any time, discount we have the power to influence our lives and our experiences. We may forget that we have the power to choose who we spend time with and who we avoid…..that we are able to determine what meaning an experience will have for us….that we are in charge of how we regard and treat our bodies….that with every choice, we can respect or disrespect ourselves….that we can begin healing broken relationships or let them fall away….that we can make a commitment to laughing more….that we can decide right here and now to truly, truly love ourselves—and if we don’t know what that really means, we can decide to begin learning. No matter what is happening around us, and no matter what illness our bodies may be fighting, we have to remember how very powerful we are.