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Monday, August 29, 2011

Hope ~ A Quote by Richard Bloch

We recently came upon this quote and wanted to share it. The following passage has been excerpted from a letter on the value of optimism in treating cancer. To read the full letter, recipe click here.Hope

There is no such thing as false hope for a cancer patient. Hope is as unique with each individual as a finger print. For some it is the hope to make a complete recovery. But it might also be the hope to die peacefully; the hope to live until a specific event happens; the hope to live with the disease; the hope to have their doctor with them when needed; the hope to enjoy today. Just as each case of cancer is unique, each person is different. Each individual has the right to be told all their options and then decide for themselves.

~ Richard Bloch, co-founder of H andamp; R Block, Inc. and founder of the R. A. Bloch Cancer Foundation

Richard BlochIn March, 1978, Richard A. Bloch was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer and told that he had three months to live. He chose to fight for his life and was declared cancer-free two years later. For the remaining twenty-six years of his life, Dick and his wife, Annette, devoted themselves to helping the next person with cancer have the best chance of beating it.  Dick passed away in July, 2004 of heart failure.  The R.A. Bloch Cancer Foundation continues the mission under Annette’s leadership.

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Letting the Light In

If we’ve just gotten a diagnosis about our health that scares us, viagra 60mg we may feel like our world has gone dark. We may be unable to see past our present situation and remember that life truly does go on. And while there’s no guarantee about what the future holds, allowing the spark of hope to enter our hearts will make us much more available for the love and grace that await.

If you find it difficult or scary to entertain hope, here are a few ideas to help:

1. Consider the Possibilities. Just because you are afraid does not mean that you’re headed on a track towards the worst Hope after cancer diagnosispossible outcome. Rather than miring yourself in negative projections, try opening up to the many possibilities that lay before you.

2. Focus on relationships. While everyone needs some alone time, isolating is a sure path down a slippery slope. Spend time with people who accept and love you the way you are. Share meals with friends and family. The more you can feel connected with others, the more naturally hopeful and positive you will become.

3. Choose to Feel. If you try to repress or ignore your emotions, they get stuck and eventually shut you down or cause you to lash out unfairly at others. If you can instead feel whatever comes up (e.g., fear, sadness, confusion, anger, jealousy) when it arises, you’ll remain much clearer to see the goodness in your life.

4. Trust Yourself. Believe in your own resourcefulness and creativity to handle whatever comes your way. This will help lift anxieties about the future and give you confidence in your ability to turn things around.

5. Make a plan. Find out all the information you need and start setting up a plan. It’s much easier to relax and feel hopeful when the most pressing or nerve-wracking decisions have already been dealt with.

6. Accept What Is. And sometimes what is, is difficult. Hope isn’t about avoiding what’s real. It’s about knowing that good is still possible, no matter what things look like at the moment.

Saturday, October 9, 2010

How to Inspire Hope When Life Seems Hopeless


I recently had lunch with someone I often think of as my “miracle pal,” my dear friend Roxanne. Her advanced cervical cancer returned more than Lori Hopea year ago, after an almost two year remission, but she has remained remarkably healthy.

Rox chose not to pursue any more conventional treatment. Her doctor told her that undergoing chemo again would only extend her life for a very short time, and since she was symptom-free, she chose to live her days fully, pursuing alternative treatment modalities, including and perhaps most important, what brings her joy.

But joy wasn’t what I saw as we waited for the black-haired waitress to bring our spicy tuna sandwiches. I sensed a sadness in Rox; It looked like hope had drained from her face like blood from a tournequeted finger. Knowing how private she is, I let her take the communicative lead; in other words, I simply asked in a nonchalant way how she was doing, and allowed her to choose the topic of conversation. She kept things light, but I could feel a heaviness sinking her soul.

I kept wondering how I could impart hope to her. Was that in fact even possible? It’s easy to dash hope; people inadvertently do it all the time by telling cancer “horror stories.” But how do you give someone hope, besides telling a success story of someone else who fared well or survived?

I know that telling people with cancer to think positively can actually make them feel worse. Yet everyone knows that thinking positively makes one feel more hopeful. So it would follow that people with cancer would want to be reminded, “You have to be positive.” Right?

Wrong. Hope is a feeling, while positive thinking is a mental construct. It can be nigh impossible to “change your mind” and think about the bright side when you’re traumatized. And it’s normal to feel sad, angry, and even hopeless when faced with a diagnosis of cancer.

But there is still great hope for inspiring hope. Here’s what I’ve found. When someone shows me they love me, when they demonstrate that they accept me for who I am, right now, even when I’m being cranky or negative, it makes me feel better, and therefore more hopeful. Studies show that social support increases feelings of hope.

When I’m criticized or told what to do, the implication is that I’m not doing it — whatever “it” is — well enough. That can undermine my confidence and make me feel worse.

Over lunch, I told my friend that I love being with her. That I love her calm energy, but that I love her whether her energy’s calm or not or whether she’s feeling up or down. I told her how much I love our friendship.

By providing comfort, love, and confidence, and by silently supporting her treatment or lack of treatment decision, even if it’s not the decision I would make, I think I inspired hope. At least I hope I did.

It’s always a struggle to say and do the “right thing,” and, sometimes nothing you say or do will be “right,” because your friend or loved one is so stressed and therefore mercurial. Hence, the statement that people with cancer want you to know, “My moods change day to day; please forgive me if I snap at you,” rings all too true all too often.

But by just being there, and by listening, you can make a world of difference. By telling someone you are thinking about them, that you love them, that you believe in them, you can help them live a richer, more meaningful, and more miraculous life.

Always hope,
Lori Hope

Cancer survivor, Lori Hope is the author of Help Me Live: 20 Things People with Cancer Want You to Know,’s second bestselling “cancer support” book. A newly expanded second edition of the book will be out next year. You can find more of Lori’s work on her blog. And if you’d like to participate in an anonymous survey about what was most helpful — and not so helpful — to you after receiving a cancer diagnosis, please click here. Participants will be eligible to receive a package of outstanding health and healing books.