Posts Tagged ‘Support’

Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Healing Touch

“Touch is one of the most essential elements of human development, a profound method of communication, a critical healing hands touchingcomponent of health and growth… and a powerful healing force” (Zur, 2004).

Safe, positive human touch can relieve tension and help you feel connected, safe and utterly loveable. It can ease anxiety, generate hope and help you heal.

Ask a loved one to scratch your head, play with your hair, rub your feet or just hold your hand. Get a massage—do a massage “trade” with a friend if you can’t afford to pay someone. At the very least, start by caressing your own arms or massaging your own neck and shoulders.

Your body craves touch. So, especially if you’re in a healing process, try making it more of a priority in your life.

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

If You’re Overwhelmed, Ask for Help

Let’s face it. Life can be overwhelming. Sometimes we just need a hand…someone to cook us dinner, malady get the kids ready for schoolS.O.S. Help so we can sleep in, treat accompany us to a doctor’s appointment, loan us money, or advocate on our behalf. Sometimes we just need a shoulder to cry on or a hand to hold. And the longer we keep pretending that we’re invincible, all-knowing super heroes, the more isolated and burned out we’ll feel.

If you’re trying to do too much, hold everything together, or are otherwise looking at an impossibly long to-do list, reach out. Delegate. Ask for the help you need. Most people will be so glad you did.

If you’re not quite sure what’s the best way to go about asking for help, click here for some really useful tips.

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

3 Easy Tips To Help You Say NO

When we’re trying to heal, sickness we need to focus a lot more attention on ourselves than we may be used to. In order to find saying no to help heal cancer, <a href=generic eczema, psoriasis” width=”300″ height=”225″ />much-needed time for body care and emotional wellbeing, it’s vital that we learn how to say, “No”—even when it’s uncomfortable.

Here are 3 tips to help make it easier for you to say, “No,” when you need to:

1. Get clear on your priorities. Write them down. Who and what are the top 5 most important things in your life right now? When you know what these are, you’ll feel less pressured by other people’s agendas.

2.  Let yourself be clumsy. Many of us have been programmed from a young age to people-please. So saying, “No,” gracefully and feeling comfortable about your decision is going to take some practice…but the payoff is well worth it.

3. Prepare a few statements in advance, so you don’t have to think on your feet. Try, “I’m sorry. I can’t do that right now,” or “No, that doesn’t fit my schedule.” If you’re feeling pressured or aren’t sure whether you want to do something, try saying, “Let me think about it and get back to you.” This will give you some time to get clear.

The better you get at saying, “No,” to what you don’t want, the more energy you’ll have for what you do want. And that helps to make a healthier you.

Thursday, March 1, 2012

Create Your Support System

As we move through the ups and downs of life, stomach a good support system can bless us with friends who celebrate our triumphs and those who comfort and encourage us when we’re feeling low. Cultivating a healthy support team can be one of the most important projects we ever undertake. In fact, vcialis 40mg a study published in the Journal of Psychology tracked participants over a thirty year period and found that those who maintained connections with family, close friends, and community, had significantly lower rates of mental and physical health disorders.

support system for those with radiation therapy, eczema, psoriasisThe first step to cultivating a healthy support network is to stand up and be on your own team. Have your own back by treating yourself with kindness, compassion and encouragement. Get clear on your boundaries, your limits and your needs….then honor them!  No one can do this for you.

Secondly, accept people where they are and appreciate their strengths. Take an honest look at the people who are already in your life and accept their limits. Not everyone can be the perfect confidant, objective voice of reason, maternal comfort, and cheerleader at the same time. Sometimes people can be there for you in some ways and not in others. When you can accept the strengths and limitations of the people in your life, you will be much more successful in getting the kind of support you need when you need it.

Expanding your network is another important step to building a circle of allies. Most of us call on our friends, family and colleagues to provide support. But there are plenty of resources we may not be utilizing such as local support groups, online communities, professionals, mentors and more. If you’re serious about taking charge of your need for support, reach out and don’t stop at the first one you find. Keep exploring until you discover the right fit for your needs, comfort level and lifestyle.

If any members of your support team are professionals, such as doctors, therapists, or healers of any kind, remember that they’re working for you. If you trust them and feel that they make your life better, great! If you can’t rely on them for any reason, don’t be afraid to fire them and find someone who will make a better contribution to your team.

Building a support community may take being proactive and giving some thought to keeping the relationships balanced, but when you feel confident in the people you can lean on in times of need and are happy to celebrate your joys with them, all the efforts are worth it.

Monday, July 11, 2011

One Step at a Time

If you’re healing from cancer or cancer treatments and are coping with radiation side effects, or side effects from chemotherapy, one step at a timeyou may feel overwhelmed. If you’ve been trying to heal from eczema and haven’t yet been able to clear it up, you may feel resigned or frustrated. If your life seems particularly demanding right now, if it’s pushing you to new limits, know that you don’t have to run full force to the finish line. You just have to do what is before you. You just have to take one step at a time. Take good care of yourself by resting, moving at a pace that feels comfortable, and allowing yourself to handle no more than what you can handle. Right now, you just have to take one step at a time.

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Let Other People Carry Their Own Burdens

Most of us don’t realize how much we are carrying for other people. We want our friends and family to feel good, and so we do Baggageeverything in our power to make their lives easier. We try to help them feel positive about themselves and encourage them to get their needs met. But if we’re trying to get healthy again, the last thing we can worry about is taking care of other people. It’s up to our loved ones to carry their own burdens and make their own lives better. And sometimes, letting others do that for themselves is the most loving thing we can do – for everyone.

Saturday, October 9, 2010

How to Inspire Hope When Life Seems Hopeless


I recently had lunch with someone I often think of as my “miracle pal,” my dear friend Roxanne. Her advanced cervical cancer returned more than Lori Hopea year ago, after an almost two year remission, but she has remained remarkably healthy.

Rox chose not to pursue any more conventional treatment. Her doctor told her that undergoing chemo again would only extend her life for a very short time, and since she was symptom-free, she chose to live her days fully, pursuing alternative treatment modalities, including and perhaps most important, what brings her joy.

But joy wasn’t what I saw as we waited for the black-haired waitress to bring our spicy tuna sandwiches. I sensed a sadness in Rox; It looked like hope had drained from her face like blood from a tournequeted finger. Knowing how private she is, I let her take the communicative lead; in other words, I simply asked in a nonchalant way how she was doing, and allowed her to choose the topic of conversation. She kept things light, but I could feel a heaviness sinking her soul.

I kept wondering how I could impart hope to her. Was that in fact even possible? It’s easy to dash hope; people inadvertently do it all the time by telling cancer “horror stories.” But how do you give someone hope, besides telling a success story of someone else who fared well or survived?

I know that telling people with cancer to think positively can actually make them feel worse. Yet everyone knows that thinking positively makes one feel more hopeful. So it would follow that people with cancer would want to be reminded, “You have to be positive.” Right?

Wrong. Hope is a feeling, while positive thinking is a mental construct. It can be nigh impossible to “change your mind” and think about the bright side when you’re traumatized. And it’s normal to feel sad, angry, and even hopeless when faced with a diagnosis of cancer.

But there is still great hope for inspiring hope. Here’s what I’ve found. When someone shows me they love me, when they demonstrate that they accept me for who I am, right now, even when I’m being cranky or negative, it makes me feel better, and therefore more hopeful. Studies show that social support increases feelings of hope.

When I’m criticized or told what to do, the implication is that I’m not doing it — whatever “it” is — well enough. That can undermine my confidence and make me feel worse.

Over lunch, I told my friend that I love being with her. That I love her calm energy, but that I love her whether her energy’s calm or not or whether she’s feeling up or down. I told her how much I love our friendship.

By providing comfort, love, and confidence, and by silently supporting her treatment or lack of treatment decision, even if it’s not the decision I would make, I think I inspired hope. At least I hope I did.

It’s always a struggle to say and do the “right thing,” and, sometimes nothing you say or do will be “right,” because your friend or loved one is so stressed and therefore mercurial. Hence, the statement that people with cancer want you to know, “My moods change day to day; please forgive me if I snap at you,” rings all too true all too often.

But by just being there, and by listening, you can make a world of difference. By telling someone you are thinking about them, that you love them, that you believe in them, you can help them live a richer, more meaningful, and more miraculous life.

Always hope,
Lori Hope

Cancer survivor, Lori Hope is the author of Help Me Live: 20 Things People with Cancer Want You to Know,’s second bestselling “cancer support” book. A newly expanded second edition of the book will be out next year. You can find more of Lori’s work on her blog. And if you’d like to participate in an anonymous survey about what was most helpful — and not so helpful — to you after receiving a cancer diagnosis, please click here. Participants will be eligible to receive a package of outstanding health and healing books.

Thursday, October 7, 2010

Go with Your Gut

If you’re trying to make a decision, trust yourself. Take a moment. Close your eyes. How do the options feel in your body? You might notice that Intuitionyour stomach gets tight or anxious. Perhaps you feel warm and relaxed. If you’re having trouble getting a clear read, you may just need more information on the matter. Find out more details, then try again. As a practice, start asking your body to inform you of what’s best for you before you look outward and ask a friend for advice. You might be surprised at how much you actually do know, and at how reliable of an internal navigation system you already have.

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Navigating Depression

If we’re facing a life-changing illness, recipe or our physical challenges have lasted a long time, treatment we might find ourselves in a depressed womandepressed state where just getting out of bed in the morning takes heroic effort. Battling depression like this can make it extra difficult to do for ourselves what is necessary to keep us healing and moving forward. So, rx while we may want to consider getting professional support, we are going to have to dig deep and find some inner resources as well. Here are a few quick tips that can help:

1. Start small. You already know what’s good for you: exercise, reducing stress, eating well, drinking lots of water, etc. But right now, just the mere idea of tackling all of these might be overwhelming. So just start with something you can manage. Begin with a walk around the block. Or skip soda for today. Add more as you are able. If you feel that healthy living is all or nothing, then chances are you’ll never get around to any of it; and in order to feel better, you do have to take good care of your self.

2. Stay social. It’s easy to want to isolate ourselves when we feel miserable, but doing so only makes us more vulnerable to getting pulled down deeper. Ask a friend or family member to keep you company one night a week for a few weeks, or at least make a standing phone date with them. Invite your sister over to help you cook dinner. Ask the neighbor to join you for a movie. It may be the last thing you feel like doing, but maintaining these social connections is vital to recovery.

3. Don’t take it personally. You already have enough on your plate without adding self-recrimination to the mix. Remember that this is an experience in your life, it is not the sum total of who you are. At some point, believe it or not, you will feel better, and this can happen more quickly if you’re able to be patient and kind with yourself.

4. Look into your heart. When you can see clearly the people and things that matter most to you, they will become a source of energy to help you get through this.

5. Share your feelings. Even if it means talking about the fact that right now you are not feeling anything and that’s the whole problem. Make sure to share your feelings with someone you trust, either a professional or someone who you know can hold space for your emotions without running scared. This will help energy to move out of your system, while building your feeling of connection with others.

6. Ask for help. If you suspect your experience may be more than you can handle, reach out for assistance from professionals and support groups in your area. Although it might feel like you’re the only one in the world going through this, you aren’t. There are so many people who have been exactly where you are, and there is a world of resources available if you reach out your hand.

Monday, June 28, 2010

Moving Forward in the Face of Chronic Illness


I’ve seen and experienced a great deal of illness in my personal and professional life. I was chronically ill (Chronic Fatigue James Jordan for Jeans CreamSyndrome) for six years in the 1980s and after recovering my health, changed careers from lawyer to nutritionist. After I recovered my health I continued working as a lawyer but found myself advising many of my clients and colleagues on nutrition and health. I remember one day realizing that I was more inspired to teach people how to improve their health than practice law, which began a career transition that took several years.

The first thing I needed in my own healing was a motivation to get well. I saw the world as upside down and full of injustice and suffering. There was no reason to live but I didn’t want to die either so I sat out much of my 20’s. I had rejected spirituality and life beyond the senses. When I open up to a spiritual dimension of life the decisions I made pertaining to my health became better decisions and I gradually recovered. In “Man’s Search for Meaning”, Viktor Frankl talks about how finding meaning in life was the key to surviving his experience in Nazi concentration camps. This was important for me as well.

After developing meaning for my own life, I had to address toxicity and nutrition in order for my body to heal. In becoming a nutritionist, I learned that many degenerative and chronic illnesses have toxicity and nutrient deficiency components to them. I’ve also found that different people heal with different types of diets. Since we are all biologically unique, the diet and supplements that purify and regenerate our cells the best are based on our unique metabolic imbalances and biological conditioning. And so, this has become the focus of my work in helping my clients to recover their health.

Purpose and meaning in life, along with the right diet and nutrition program, from my perspective, are the two keys to recovering from illness of all kinds. Said another way, I believe that both motivation and discernment are critical to success. Motivation to live and experience life fully, and discernment between what is good for our bodies and what is not. We can’t give up. We must use our discernment to make decisions based on what increases our health and vitality.

James Jordan, CNC, JD, is a certified nutritional consultant and a certified metabolic typing advisor who helped heal himself from a six-year battle with chronic illness. In the field for more than a decade, James has supported thousands of people in regaining their health. He has been on staff at the Optimal Wellness Center in Chicago and led his own private health practice in Illinois and Oregon. He is currently enrolled in a doctoral program in natural healing, while completing his naturopathic degree. James has also been a featured nutrition and alternative health care expert on Channel 7 News in Chicago.

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